The Mark of a Good Parent
Am I a good parent..? I am asked this question on a daily basis by parents in both work and personal settings. I see the worry in their body language and their need for reassurance when they ask this question.
The answer is not a simple one. Why..? The role of a parent is ever changing, complex and requires self reflection of strengths and weaknesses. The good news is that if you are aware of these points you are probably a better parent that what you give yourself credit for.
I can confidently say that the following elements are things that work well in developing healthy minded families. This process starts from the beginning. These elements are:
- Listening and providing comfort (not judgement) when children have concerns.
- Guiding their behaviour by providing children with safe options.
- Giving age appropriate opportunities to be independent and master tasks.
- Praising children’s achievements and effort.
- Being firm but fair with family rules. This includes applying appropriate rewards or consequences and giving clear and calm explanations.
- Helping children develop their knowledge of the world gradually and shielding them from stressful adult issues (i.e. mortgages, marital conflict).
- Leading by example. Can’t stress this enough. (i.e. style of communication, how problems and stressors are handled).
So back to the original question; Are you a good parent?
If you are posing this question to yourself and evaluating how you can be better, you have answered your own question – Yes, you are a good parent.
Our team value the opportunity to support families in a non judgemental way and help them realise their strengths. Please feel free to get in touch with us for more information on how we help families be the best they can be!